Kristina asked:

Does every person have a single soul mate out there who is destined only for them? But then what if
their soulmate dies, or they never have the opportunity of meeting their soulmate... would a person
have to have multiple soulmates? But if a person has multiple soulmates, what if they meet several of
their multiple soulmates at the same time, what happens then? Could you please give me some
answers, because these questions have been bothering me for a long time. I believe that a person
has a soulmate, but as the above questions illustrated, that doesn't seem to be enough.

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I'm afraid I don't know the book you mention, nor do I see the point you are making in your other
question.

But why do see the soul as only having one mate? Is the soul so rigid that it can't respond in a variety
of different ways to different people?

You might have a soul-mate, if you have a soul, but you still have to choose them and work at the
relationship so that it develops properly. Surely you don't think that you just meet the ideal person for
you and everything goes on swimmingly after that? We are rational beings who live active lives and
even if there were multiple possible people that we can love, we will choose those that suit our own
way of life and our actual needs. The problem in real life seems to be that we can feel someone is our
soul-mate, or "meant for us" when they are not. And we come to find this out by experience.

As rational beings we have to think carefully about what we do if it is to be successful for us. Although
I don't believe in the soul, I feel my husband would be my soul-mate if there was such a thing. But I
still wrote out for and against marrying him lists and compared them before the wedding. At the time
the "for" list wasn't much longer than "against". Reasons "for" can become stronger.

Rachel Browne

Two ways of seeing this question: 1) Statistics; 2) Fate

1) If you go by statistics, you probably have a X number of people that are a perfect match for you, by
means of analysis of what you like, how you are, etc. You should consider that this X number is very
low, probably two digits, so you won't meet most of them, and if you meet one or two you would be
considered very "lucky", literally.

2) If you believe in fate, you can believe that there is a soulmate for you out there, and you are
destined to meet him, sooner or later. In this way, you need not worry trying to find him.

In my view, both perspectives show you the same answer: you can't actively pursue the quest of
finding your soulmate. You depend either on chance or fate. They are very different, but both show
you some hope for finding your soulmate.

Nuno Hipolito